Mr. Right Now

People have been asking me lately if i believe in a Mr. Right. The answer to that - put simply - is no. But what's funny about that is that i do believe in a Mr. Right Now. This suggests that there is a time and a place for the relationship to occur. Sometimes there are just those times where you like someone - and they're into you too - but timing is off...very off. This is the predicament that I believe I'm in right now.

Hot and cold, mixed messages, no messages at all - its all the same deal. It's either they like you and doesn't want to get attached or they like the attention and want to string you along. Now let's analyze this situation logically.

IF they like you and they aren't doing anything about it - its not worth it. It feels like if a guy doesn't want to put the effort into maybe getting attached, than there isn't a point. No risk, no gain right? I figure that life is about risks. If anything and everything was planned out, life wouldn't be fun, unexpected, thrilling...

On the other hand, if they just want the attention - we'll then cut it out. Chances are that if he's getting the attention from you, he's getting it from someone else as well. My advice, let it go. Easier said than done, I know....

Life is about taking risks - carpe diem - seize the day...

However you say it, its saying the same things

rules and exceptions

rule #1: never let it show how much you like the guy. Consider it to be words of wisdom - especially since it came from a friends dad. Im pretty sure he knows what hes talking about

rule #2: drunk calling and texting - not a good idea. Through a friends experience, when you think you called or texted once...chances are you did it 30 times. bad idea.

rule #3: if a guy wants to call you, he will. Its called a game - play it or you'll lose every time.

rule #4: don't place any more importance on a guy that doesn't give a crap about you. It's not going to change how he feels about you. You're probably just going to get walked all over and taken advantage of.

rule #5: fun is good but if you like the guy, don't give in. Once he gets what it wants, he'll peace. At least make him work for it. If he cares enough, he will work for it. No guy wants to waste time on a girl wondering if he's going to get some or not.

exception: it is very possible that every one of us ladies are an exception to some extent - but we have to stop listening to these stories of how we had a friend who knew somebody that was in the same situation as us and it worked out. As much as I hate to say it, we are the rule - unless otherwise stated.

If we assume that we are the rule, maybe one day there will be a guy that sees us as the exception. Stop putting ourselves up on the pedestal and thinking that we are going to be the exception. If it happens, it will happen - there's not much that we can do about that but just wait...

seriously...FML

So after 4 years of hard work and stressful days and nights, UTM finds a way to fuck with me yet again.. Im in the middle of trying to sort it out at the moment, but who would have thought that after believing that I've graduated...i actually might not have

FUCK MY LIFE.

moving out...

Sometimes there is so much joy in moving. You're going to a new place, get to go through all the things you have to figure out what you really want or need and what is garbage. Its a cleanse. But obviously there are bad things. The people that you're leaving behind, the place you're leaving that had so many memories, and of course, the place you called home for so long. When it comes down to it, I'm so excited to move just because I'll be at my aunts house for the rest of the summer until convocation. No one is convenient to me anymore - lets me kinda find out who is willing to go out of their way to see me and keep in contact with me. I guess its also a semi wake up call for me as well. I guess we'll really see how everything goes...

ps. SO happy that there's a treadmill at my aunts house. What would i do without exercise equipment for a month!!??

ELEPHANTS!??

So after roaming downtown today - you know..the things we do when we're OUT FOR THE SUMMER!! - I was getting a little upset that i couldn't find anything to buy. Mind you, I'm kinda broke, so it doesn't matter too much anyways. But clothes were not the attraction today - nothing like jewelry! I found the cutest necklace at forever21. Elephant rhinestone long copper necklace. It has got to be the cutest thing I've ever seen. Just enough bling to make a state, and simple enough to go with anything. I love it cause its something different from the owls and sparrows you see everywhere. Mind you, it would have been ideal if it were a giraffe. For those that know me, giraffes are my weakness. Im convinced that I'm going own one someday soon and I'll have a hole in my roof to it can stick it's head out. If only...

xox