Sunday, February 28, 2010
there is such a thing.
No matter what everyone thinks, there is such a thing called love. Define yourself.
Friday, February 26, 2010
so im an idiot
Who seriously sends a letter - or in my case, a transcript - without a postage stamp?? It's not even and FML moment because this was all due to my own stupidity. My plan to redeem myself - order transcripts for me to pick up on wednesday and then rush them to UBC. Hopefully all will go well =)
xox
xox
Thursday, February 25, 2010
consider this.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If a man doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay..
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better, never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship end because the man was not treating you as you deserve then HELL NO you can't 'be friends'. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend, don't settle, If you feel like he is stringing you along, he probably is. Don't stay because you think ''it will get better''. You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things aren't better. The only person you can control in a relationship is YOU .
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any different? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you, if something bothers you.. speak up. Never let a man know everything, he will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior..Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are..even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man. Nothing more. Nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending..compromise is a two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships..there is nothing cute about baggage..deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to complete you..a relationship consists of two whole individuals..look for someone complimentary, not supplementary. Dating is fun.. even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.Right. Make him miss you sometimes..when a man always knows where you are,and your always readily available to him he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
''They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them''
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better, never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship end because the man was not treating you as you deserve then HELL NO you can't 'be friends'. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend, don't settle, If you feel like he is stringing you along, he probably is. Don't stay because you think ''it will get better''. You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things aren't better. The only person you can control in a relationship is YOU .
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any different? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you, if something bothers you.. speak up. Never let a man know everything, he will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior..Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are..even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man. Nothing more. Nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending..compromise is a two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships..there is nothing cute about baggage..deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to complete you..a relationship consists of two whole individuals..look for someone complimentary, not supplementary. Dating is fun.. even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.Right. Make him miss you sometimes..when a man always knows where you are,and your always readily available to him he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
''They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them''
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Saturday, February 20, 2010
replacement
No one likes the feeling of being replaced and yet, once in a while, that's just the way it has to be. That one best friend that you had doesn't call anymore, text anymore, doesn't even take the time out of their day to message you on facebook just to say hi. It's like you don't exist anymore. No matter how much you try, the effort is never returned. You want to know what sucks even more? The fact that it seems to be correlated with him getting a girlfriend.
How sad.
xox
How sad.
xox
Hit Me
It didn't really dawn on me until this week that this is the last semester I'm going to have at UTM. Chances are that I'm not going to keep in touch with half the people I know now and the memories that are supposed to be the best moments in my life are going to fade. The thing is - I don't know if I'm coming back to Toronto at all. Speaking to a friend today about all of this and it was said that I'm young and should be able to enjoy my life as it is now. And it's not to say that i won't - its just a matter of who I want to share that with.
I'm starting to realize that UTM might as well be a highschool. You have your cliques, your hang out spots, and your girls or guys that you ALWAYS turn to. Change isn't an easy thing for most people, and I am no exception. I want to move forward and succeed - but at the same time, I don't want it to be that the only thing i have to hold to in the end is my career. What's success without people to share it with. So I apologize for being distant (which I'm probably going to be) and if I start to seem quiet (which I'm starting to be). It's not because I don't care. It's because my walls are starting to go up again - being an only child makes you learn that things come and go. People walk in and out of our lives everyday - sometimes without knowing it.
There are some things that are for sure - like how things are going to sound when you knock on them, how something is going to feel when you touch it, how something is going to smell, what something looks like etc. Friendships, unfortunately, are not in that category. There is the odd one or two people that really make an impact on your life - and even then, somethings have to move on. Human behavior is very odd - nothing is ever for certain. Feelings change - people change. And at the end of the day, you have yourself to rely on and pick up whatever pieces that have fallen. It's up to those "friends" to chose whether they want to help you or not.
It's too bad that these so called emotions decide to hit me when I'm least expecting them to. Walls are back up and I'm ready to protect myself from the world. Take your best shot.
xox
I'm starting to realize that UTM might as well be a highschool. You have your cliques, your hang out spots, and your girls or guys that you ALWAYS turn to. Change isn't an easy thing for most people, and I am no exception. I want to move forward and succeed - but at the same time, I don't want it to be that the only thing i have to hold to in the end is my career. What's success without people to share it with. So I apologize for being distant (which I'm probably going to be) and if I start to seem quiet (which I'm starting to be). It's not because I don't care. It's because my walls are starting to go up again - being an only child makes you learn that things come and go. People walk in and out of our lives everyday - sometimes without knowing it.
There are some things that are for sure - like how things are going to sound when you knock on them, how something is going to feel when you touch it, how something is going to smell, what something looks like etc. Friendships, unfortunately, are not in that category. There is the odd one or two people that really make an impact on your life - and even then, somethings have to move on. Human behavior is very odd - nothing is ever for certain. Feelings change - people change. And at the end of the day, you have yourself to rely on and pick up whatever pieces that have fallen. It's up to those "friends" to chose whether they want to help you or not.
It's too bad that these so called emotions decide to hit me when I'm least expecting them to. Walls are back up and I'm ready to protect myself from the world. Take your best shot.
xox
Sunday, February 14, 2010
happy overrated love day
Don't get me wrong, I think that valentines day is a great way to celebrate with the one you love for those couples that don't usually have the time for each other. BUT - and there is a but - i don't quite understand the whole hype for young couples. I mean, you're with each other all the time cause you either go to school together or somehow, you just end up spending time together...ALL the time! So what's so special about this love day that most of us single ladies fret over? nothing at all. It's an over rated, materialistic excuse for a holiday. When was the last time you had an AMAZING valentines day with someone you love without a gift? how about this..when was the last time you had an amazing DAY with the one that you love?
The point Im getting at isn't me trying to be bitter, even though it might seem that way. It's the fact that no one should NEED a designated day to show a person how much they are loved by you - it should be every day, or at least every once in a while. Balloons deflate eventually, chocolate goes stale, gifts break or get dirty and flowers end up dying anyways. If you're going to celebrate this day with the one you love, do something thats non-materialistic - something that they will remember and look back on this day and recall that it was a wonderful day because of what you did, not because what you bought.
For those hopeless romantics out there that are single, spend it with the ones you love - friends, family, or even your pet. No one said that the day of love was only meant for couples.
xox
The point Im getting at isn't me trying to be bitter, even though it might seem that way. It's the fact that no one should NEED a designated day to show a person how much they are loved by you - it should be every day, or at least every once in a while. Balloons deflate eventually, chocolate goes stale, gifts break or get dirty and flowers end up dying anyways. If you're going to celebrate this day with the one you love, do something thats non-materialistic - something that they will remember and look back on this day and recall that it was a wonderful day because of what you did, not because what you bought.
For those hopeless romantics out there that are single, spend it with the ones you love - friends, family, or even your pet. No one said that the day of love was only meant for couples.
xox
Saturday, February 6, 2010
the nights you wish you could forget
Sometimes getting all glammed up for a night out to strut your stuff just ends in disaster. We've all been there, we've all done that and it's perfectly understandable to have a breakdown every now and then. Most of the time, things don't work out your way because you want them to so badly that you over analyze the little things that make us happy. The things that will never fail - a smile, a laugh and good friends to laugh with you (or at you) when your smile goes south. Life isn't about pleasing people - it's about bettering yourself as a person. Being what you want to be. Doing what you want to do. And sooner or later, things get better. When you think your life is at an all time low, there is always a situation that is worse. We tend to take advantage of the fact that we have all 4 limbs, look normal, have the ability to walk, talk and go about our daily lives without a care in the world. Play with the cards you're dealt and you'd be surprised in what the outcome is. Sometimes it's not all about the night itself, but the morning after when you realize that the people that matter are willing to listen - that you have a safety net. Love you ladies and happy belated birthday DJ.
xox
xox
Friday, February 5, 2010
peace out UTM
My last semester as an undergraduate student at UTM didn't exactly kick in til I found these last night...
talk about a reality check.
4 years of heart aches, heart breaks, sleepless night, nights that i'll never forget, remember or want to remember for that matter, caffeine injected blood, a million and one 'you have to be there' moments, an empty bank account and friends that will last a lifetime and don't mind that you're a little insane at times. All for 4 letters after my name - HBSc - and a piece of paper.
It was at this moment that I realized why i do the things I do for friends, family, and myself. It was also this very moment that I felt terrified. Terrified because I have no clue what's to come in the future. I have no clue what I'm doing next year - but I've come to the conclusion that things have a way of working themselves out. It's not the end of the world and even if it was, the world will keep on spinning with or without you in it.
So thank you so much for all the love, support, and good times. As much as I don't want to admit it, it's been an amazing time.
xox
talk about a reality check.
4 years of heart aches, heart breaks, sleepless night, nights that i'll never forget, remember or want to remember for that matter, caffeine injected blood, a million and one 'you have to be there' moments, an empty bank account and friends that will last a lifetime and don't mind that you're a little insane at times. All for 4 letters after my name - HBSc - and a piece of paper.
It was at this moment that I realized why i do the things I do for friends, family, and myself. It was also this very moment that I felt terrified. Terrified because I have no clue what's to come in the future. I have no clue what I'm doing next year - but I've come to the conclusion that things have a way of working themselves out. It's not the end of the world and even if it was, the world will keep on spinning with or without you in it.
So thank you so much for all the love, support, and good times. As much as I don't want to admit it, it's been an amazing time.
xox
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
shoes shoes shoes
I thought I would take this time to show a little love to shoes. Not only are they pretty to look at, but they keep our feet lifted off the ground, warm (most of the time) and best of all, if youre wearing heels, they make your butt look amazing - if you have one that is. Your legs look better, your confidence is boosted, everything is in tip top shape. You fell like youre on top of the world and its AMAZING.
On top of that, shout out to friends with the same shoe size! Your shoe closet just gets THAT much bigger when you have friends with the same shoe size and the same taste in shoes as you. Its really quite an exhilarating experience that ALL girls need to experience. So thank you Chanel, Prada, Jimmy Choo, and many other FABULOUS shoe designers that have made beauty possible.
until next time....
xox
On top of that, shout out to friends with the same shoe size! Your shoe closet just gets THAT much bigger when you have friends with the same shoe size and the same taste in shoes as you. Its really quite an exhilarating experience that ALL girls need to experience. So thank you Chanel, Prada, Jimmy Choo, and many other FABULOUS shoe designers that have made beauty possible.
until next time....
xox
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