Mr. Right Now

People have been asking me lately if i believe in a Mr. Right. The answer to that - put simply - is no. But what's funny about that is that i do believe in a Mr. Right Now. This suggests that there is a time and a place for the relationship to occur. Sometimes there are just those times where you like someone - and they're into you too - but timing is off...very off. This is the predicament that I believe I'm in right now.

Hot and cold, mixed messages, no messages at all - its all the same deal. It's either they like you and doesn't want to get attached or they like the attention and want to string you along. Now let's analyze this situation logically.

IF they like you and they aren't doing anything about it - its not worth it. It feels like if a guy doesn't want to put the effort into maybe getting attached, than there isn't a point. No risk, no gain right? I figure that life is about risks. If anything and everything was planned out, life wouldn't be fun, unexpected, thrilling...

On the other hand, if they just want the attention - we'll then cut it out. Chances are that if he's getting the attention from you, he's getting it from someone else as well. My advice, let it go. Easier said than done, I know....

Life is about taking risks - carpe diem - seize the day...

However you say it, its saying the same things

rules and exceptions

rule #1: never let it show how much you like the guy. Consider it to be words of wisdom - especially since it came from a friends dad. Im pretty sure he knows what hes talking about

rule #2: drunk calling and texting - not a good idea. Through a friends experience, when you think you called or texted once...chances are you did it 30 times. bad idea.

rule #3: if a guy wants to call you, he will. Its called a game - play it or you'll lose every time.

rule #4: don't place any more importance on a guy that doesn't give a crap about you. It's not going to change how he feels about you. You're probably just going to get walked all over and taken advantage of.

rule #5: fun is good but if you like the guy, don't give in. Once he gets what it wants, he'll peace. At least make him work for it. If he cares enough, he will work for it. No guy wants to waste time on a girl wondering if he's going to get some or not.

exception: it is very possible that every one of us ladies are an exception to some extent - but we have to stop listening to these stories of how we had a friend who knew somebody that was in the same situation as us and it worked out. As much as I hate to say it, we are the rule - unless otherwise stated.

If we assume that we are the rule, maybe one day there will be a guy that sees us as the exception. Stop putting ourselves up on the pedestal and thinking that we are going to be the exception. If it happens, it will happen - there's not much that we can do about that but just wait...

seriously...FML

So after 4 years of hard work and stressful days and nights, UTM finds a way to fuck with me yet again.. Im in the middle of trying to sort it out at the moment, but who would have thought that after believing that I've graduated...i actually might not have

FUCK MY LIFE.